Definitely older, don't feel wiser though

It seems that everyone I know who is divorced with kids has someone in the children's relationship who is willing to use the children to "get back at" their former spouses. It is so sad to me that there isn't a better way to ensure the children are with the parent who will do them the most good and make sure the user parent's influence is minimalized (at least until they realize what is inappropriate and counterproductive to the child).

I was fortunate that my children's fathers' influence was at least somewhat minimalized, but other people aren't and that is sad for the kids.